12 Myths of Arranged Marriages

Arranged marriages are very common in India. In fact, according to a recent study, arranged marriages have a lower rate of divorce when compared to love marriages. Arranged marriage is the scenario where the families of the bride selects the groom and vice versa.

Myths about arranged marriages

Here we jog you down 12 myths on arranged marriages that everyone believes to be true.

• All arranged marriages are the same.

  No two marriages are the same. Different people are involved in different marriages, and different marriages go through different problems. To categorize all arranged marriages as the same is just wrong.

• Arranged marriages only happen in under developed or third world countries.

  Arranged marriages are very common in many countries. It’s just a process where the two families are involved in the marriage proceedings and choose the bride or groom.

• Arranged marriages means you will have a happily ever after.

  Happily ever after is a myth. There will be up’s and downs in every relationship. It all depends on how the people involved tackle these situations. No relationship is perfect.

• Arranged marriages have fewer fights.

  Fights occur in very marriage be it an arranged marriage or love marriage.

• Arranged marriages favour men.

  This is a widespread myth that is highly prevalent about arranged marriages. However, this is not true for all arranged marriages. There are many marriages that are equal for both genders. And there are many marriages where the woman is the dominant one. It all depends on the people involved in the marriage.

• There is less love in arranged marriages.

  Love is not determined by the type of marriage. Agreed, that it takes time to warm up to the other person in an arranged marriage, but this does not mean that arranged marriages have less love. It takes time to fall in love with the other person with whom you are bound by the sacred vow of marriage, but you will.

• There is loss of freedom in arranged marriages.

  Freedom is not affected by arranged marriages. You will have to sacrifice a lot of things, but that is what makes your relationship stronger and makes it last long. The fact that you have had an arranged marriage does not determine the level of freedom that you will get in your relationship.

• Arranged marriage is a license to have kids.

  Having children is something that is a very personal decision and needs to be made with care. Just because you had an arranged marriage does not mean that you should have a kid within a year or two. This is a decision that needs to be given a lot of thought.

• Educated women find it difficult to adjust in an arranged marriage

  Education in fact improves a person’s understanding, and educated couples tend to solve their problems in much less time and with little chaos. Education helps you understand and analyze a situation. This in turn helps you find the solution to your problem in a peaceful and civilized manner.

• If the groom hails from a good family and has a good income then he is a perfect match.

  Job and lineage are not at all important while picking your choice of groom. The character of the person is important. Just because he is rich, does not give him a free pass. In order to live with him, you need to know his character, his habits and most importantly his style of living.

• Love is the most important part of an arranged marriage

  Love does not happen overnight. Love is one part. The most important thing in a marriage is understanding. You need to understand each other to have a successful relationship. According to surveys, most people do not get married for love. They get married because they crave for companionship.

• Arranged marriages are forever.

  Nothing lasts forever. If you feel that your marriage is not working out, even after you have tried your best to fix it, then it’s OK to get out of it, irrespective of whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage.

Conclusion

Marriage is a sacred institution, irrespective of whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage. And most importantly, marriage is an institution that gives people an opportunity to find your right companion. Companionship or partnership becomes very important as you climb the ladder of age. Choose well and have a happy and long life.